There's a lot of advice out there about how to have the hottest sex - and what crazy positions will blow his mind. But what really turns us on - okay turns me on - is different than what you might assume. So as Ohhh's resident guy on staff, I'm happy to share with you what I think makes for a rocking good time in the sack.
Note I'm just one guy - and my suggestions won't work for everyone. Obviously, I can't speak for every guy out there, and nor would I want to. Also, let me draw attention to the fact that this article is mostly for FSM (females-seeking-males) - but I hope that whatever your sexual orientation and interests, that we can agree on these points - bodies are beautiful and confidence is sexy.
So without further adieu, I'm going to tell it to you straight from the hip...err, heart.
1. Express your inner sexy.
Ditch the ugly panties. Those old cotton panties that you'd never want a sexual partner to see you in? Throw them out. Not for my sake - for yours. Because if the possibility of sex comes up, and you're feeling it, I don't want you to turn me down because you don't like your panties. I probably won't even notice them (I'm focused on you), but your preoccupation with them with kill the mood.
Instead, on date night, pick out a sexy (but comfortable) bra and underwear to wear under that little black dress.
Oh, and by the way, from a guy's perspective, noticing that you put in the effort to be extra sexy makes us feel special and gives a little boost of confidence to take the lead...all the way to the bedroom.
2. Relax and let us love your body.
When the the evening is heating up, and getting naked with someone you like is becoming a real possibility, it's natural to feel shy and concerned about being scrutinized. Everyone - guys included, has body issues. With media and advertising constantly selling us on body improvement, it's easy to have magnifying glass view of our "flaws".
But here's the thing: there's nothing wrong with your body. It's yours to love, enjoy and share with whomever you want. If there are areas you feel particularly insecure about (like your soft belly or those little hot dogs you have for toes), you may feel tempted to apologize or express a complaint.
Instead, just relax, let things unfold and enjoy the moment. There's a good chance that we haven't even noticed your "flaws" because we're so excited about being with YOU! We may even love that sexy belly and those cute little toes of yours!
If you really do have to say something, then it's okay to bring it up...just be willing to move on and let go. Most likely, we'll kiss that sensitive spot of yours and tell you how beautiful you are! At least that's what I would do. And if you're with someone that isn't totally into your body and making you feel amazing... that's his problem. Not yours.
3. Take the lead once in a while.
Men are often expected to take control and be the dominant ones in the bedroom. While we love to express our strength and "be the man" for you, we also really love it when you push back and express your sexuality. It provides a nice counter-balance to our strength and helps us know that you're really into us.
What a turn on!
Initiating can be as simple as a naughty little text in the middle of the day (our CE of Ohhh talks about this stuff all the time), getting physically dominant in bed, a bit of dirty talk, or suggesting something fun you'd like to try like naughty bedroom dice.
4. Tell us what you're thinking.
There's nothing hotter than when a woman is feeling great, and wants to get down.
Open communication is the best way for you to feel great about yourself and build trust with a partner. It's okay to say what you feel comfortable with, and what you're not. In fact - it's really important that you do. Consent is sexy. And necessary. Always. All the time. Can I emphasize this point enough? I don't think so. One more time - always be clear about your boundaries (and ask about his). Any guy that's worth spending a night with (or your life) is going to respect what you're into and what you're not (and expect you to respect his).
Being open and telling us what you're looking for, what you like, and what's happening for you puts us at ease and creates a sense of trust where things can unfold naturally.
And that's when the best sex really does happen!
Now it's your turn... What do you guys (and girls) think makes for the hottest sex ever? Please comment below or tweet at us. We'd love to hear from you.
About the Author
Jonathan is Ohhh Canada's resident representative of the male voice for all things sexy. When he's not writing for Ohhh Canada, or helping customers find the perfect vibe, Jonathan helps men and women find and express their most confident selves as one-half of the Toronto-based styling team, Kylie & Jonathan.
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